Control

Hey Guys,

So something I am learning about myself is that I like to be in control of my situation. Today I tried something new, I went bungee jumping which was a whole new experience for me. I have never done something like that before because I was always too scared of heights, or of falling but basically what it came down too was not having control of my situation. There is something amazing that comes with bungee jumping off a bridge. Those two or three seconds where you have absolutely no control is something that I have never experienced before. It was after that I realized I love to have control. Which I believe is normal for our culture. We are a culture that loves to always be in control. I am starting to see that because I like to have control there are difference aspects of my life that get affected by it, weather it be with my parents, with my job, or on a sports team I like to have control of the team and situation at hand.

But what about losing control? In a healthy way. We are usually taught (or maybe that is just me) that we need to have control of our situation or else we are weak or not a strong leader. But I beg to differ with this idea, we need to give up some control. I, myself tend to push myself and try to take control of situations that do not require control. But there is some beauty and benefits to sometimes being a follower instead of constantly controlling the situation. After today I am starting to realized there are area's of my life that I need to give control up weather it be with sports, or with work you do not always have to be in control. As times goes on and as I learn a few lessons here and there, sometimes it would be nicer to learn from other people once and a while. This brings me to my main point which is this, in order to be a leader you must learn to follow and not always take control. I believe that is a common misconception that in order to lead you must have control.

I am not calling myself a great leader but on the flip side I believe I have a ton to learn before I will ever become a good leader. I have spent so much time believe that if you are in control it means you are a leader, therefore all you need to do is be in control right? Well that is very faulty logic. As time goes on I have learned that sometimes leading means following first, understanding how something works and not always taking control. I think I am repeating myself at this point so ill stop writing but that is what I wanted to talk about is save yourself a headache and let someone else take control!

Goodbye for now,

Christian Sawka

I Am A Manly Man

Hey Guys,

It has been a while since my last post. I would like to say thank you first off because as of yesterday I passed the 10,000 view mark on my blog which is mind blowing for me . When I started blogging I was hoping to just reach out to one or two people never really expected anything from this in anyway. It has truly been a blessing to everyone who has come back day after day and have read my blog! Furthermore, I would like to thank the people that have put up with my spelling thus far and will continue too (hopefully it will improve). So one to the point of today's blog. I am a MANLY MAN, or so I think. We always have a different idea of what a man is suppose to be, weather it be the Hollywood guy, the masculine man, or any other version we all have a perceived idea of what a man should be. But do not worry I am a manly man! The reason I keep saying that over and over is a friend showed me a great poem that has made me think lately. Here it is:

I don’t want my long hair, pretty green eyes, with ( no! I do not have on mascara. ) eyelashes, skinny figure, undersized t-shirt, hip shake too much when I walk confuse anybody. I am a manly man.

Within this sissy frame, obviously rib laden chest lies a heart that beats to the drum of a native American ritual dancing wildness. It pumps an ever cascading supply of untamedness that a herd of wild mustangs have yet to grasp. If danger lurks about, I will seek it out. If adventure abounds, there I will be found. If a damsel be in distress, I will show her who is best. I am a manly man.

Because I don’t flush, and I leave the lid up.

I drive a 1988 Ford Pick-up truck. Girls don’t break up with me, I break up with them first. ( Except the last time, it didn’t really work out like that… ) I don’t shave the hair on my face ( Because I still can’t grow facial hair yet… ) But when I can, I won’t, because beards are tough.

I fart, burp, and spit when I want, not caring who’s nearby. Disrespect my momma, and I will punch you in the eye. I am a manly man.

Or am I? I tell my guy friends that I love ‘em. And sometimes, sometimes I even hug ‘em. Not because I’m gay, but because I love ‘em. And when I watched Bambi, I cried. And when my Mema gets mad, I still run and hide.

Like David, I wanna be a man after God’s own heart. And I’m not there yet, but I’m past the start. And when people talk, I try to listen. A spirit of compassion, that’s my vision. Surely I am a manly man. I want to be loved and have love and give love.

And not just that romantic kind either. Although I am looking for that beauty.
Not helpless, but wants to be rescued. The damsel in distress, man, woman, myth, true. I will fight for her, climb the highest tower for her, love her, share with her, delight in her, be her warrior, her protector.

She will be my crown and I will be hers. My masculinity will be passed down and affirmed to my sons. And each of my daughters will know they are lovely, and deserving of authentic romance.

Society tells me all day long that I’ve defined manhood completely wrong. But you ask any honest man, and he will agree. You ask any honest woman, and she too will see, that I am a manly man.

-Bradly Hathaway

It is an interesting idea to think what is a manly man. We tend to put images to certain things and this is just another one of those images we create. The way men should be. I know often it is woman who are talked about, about being portrayed as being one way by the media but it is the same way for men too. We are shown how a a Man's Man should be. This made me start to think though... is that right? I do not believe the whole world's image of a man and a woman will change tomorrow. Actually I know that for sure that it will not change, the only way to change the world is by changing yourself. What I mean by that is that we can only control the way we are, not the way the people surrounding us are or how the world is. Let's change this then, what our perception of a male is. First off, stop making fun of us who play video games, or talk about starcraft :). I think the thing I am starting to learn that the definition of a manly man is a man who loves. Sure, we all show love in different ways but the man who loves is a manly man. Sometimes we are shown that men are not suppose to be emotional, or show love, care or anything that could involve emotion. That is my piece of advice for all males, show a little emotion once and a while, we are all human. 

Hope the week is going great for all of you and that life is good! Remember act human and show some emotion men!

Goodbye for now,

Christian Sawka

Back to Normal

Hey Guys,

I will be back blogging starting today (Monday, May 2nd) I took a quick break while trying to adjust back to being home and balancing. Look forward to hear from everyone and also share with you some things that have gone on in my life and the things I have noticed!

Goodbye for now,
Christian Sawka