Saturday, March 12, 2011

How to get a Girl

If you are reading this blog post you must read the entire blog post. No stopping half way through, if you do you will not understand the full importance of this post. Therefore you must read right to the end.

So I posted on my blog a few post back simple life questions that I have faced. I wrote that I would be doing a little mini-series on a few of the questions. So here is the third part, how to get a girl. 
How do I get that girl?
Tell her how you feel and ask her out.

Often times we think getting a girl, or getting a date or asking someone out is the hardest task we will face as guys. Well I am here to share a few secrets on the situation:

First off it acting confidently at all times, not arrogant or prideful but acting confidently. Knowing what you are saying and pretending to have the answer to everything. This does not mean correcting a girl, or trying to show off how great you are but it is not showing weakness i.e. flaws. 

Secondly, the thing you need to remember is NEVER fear rejection ever. You will miss 100% of the shots you never take. Going along with this idea of confidence the best way to get a girl or to get a girl on a date is to just ask her out, no reservations. We create this idea of how we should ask a girl, or what moves we should take or stuff like that when really just asking straight up is the best policy

Thirdly, avoid talking about flaws or weakness. Often these can show that you are not as good as you want to be. You do not want to show the weak points of yourself. Showing your weaknesses will make you less attractive.

Fourthly, if you have listened to a word of this and take this seriously then you need to do some soul searching. Too often we listen to these ideas about how we need to act, how we need to pretend to act or how we should be is something I think we all suffer with. Something I do suffer with is trying to pretend to be something I am not, over exaggerating and trying to hide my weaknesses. The reason I used this title about how to get a girl is because I believe this is something pushed in our society. Or maybe it was 'just' me. Maybe it was just me but we are pushed to pretend something we are not. So let me get back to the point 'how do you get that girl' you be who you are. Shockingly simple eh? I have found this, that pretending to be something your not can only save you for a short time till the real person in you comes out. So I guess the best advice if you actually want to get a girl is this, do no fear rejection, do not fear your flaws, and be confident in who you are. You can pretend all you want to try and find a girl or anything like that. Until you stop pretending to be something your not and be confident in who you are it will be difficult.

Hope this advice help, something I've had to learn over the years!

Goodbye for now,
Christian Sawka


  1. Hahaha, you're so sneaky!

  2. I totally agree with this. I used to have a problem with liking other guys while I'm in a relationship with my girl, but I can see now I need to stop hiding that from her and just embrace who I am. Who knows, maybe she'd be into a polyamorous relationship! (:

  3. If you're a guy asking a guy out, and getting tips from Christian on how to do that, there is a problem somewhere...

  4. What do you mean? Nowhere in the Bible is homosexuality condemned, what is your problem Joshua?

  5. Are you insinuating that Christian is gay?

  6. I believe what Josh is trying to say and getting across is this. My advice is how to get a girl I do not know the first thing about homosexuality. I do not condemn anyone because frankly who am I to judge anyone? The bible talks about homosexuality and then mentions that if you are a liar, stealer, do not love etc... That it is all not favored.

    Frankly I do not know the first think about homosexuality and neither does Josh is what I think he is saying.

  7. There's no part in the Bible that says homosexuality is bad. In fact, there's no monogamy clause either, that's why its tyrannical to be against polygamy.

  8. What happened to that guy's comment? I was totally going to shut him down with these Biblical references.

  9. ha! thats a laugh ur case was sealed from the get go no amount of jesus hating censorship can stop the bible

  10. I do not get what you mean hear? Jesus hating censorship can stop the bible? What are you refering too?

  11. someone deleted my comment that was referring to Sodom and Gomorrah

  12. You ignorant buffoon, God only destroyed those cities because they tried to rape one of his angels. God loves his gays, King David was even gay with Jonathan. God even said David was a man after his own heart, he loves his gays, maybe even more than his straights, maybe more than just as friends too.

  13. Let's get back to the fact that Christian Sawka is giving guys advice on how to get girls. Laughable.
    Apparently he has learned through his long list of Trinity women that steps one to three don't work. Shocking.

    PS. Writing 100 might be the class for you!

  14. I believe my post actually says that exact thing. Do not take my advice in anyways let alone anyones. The moment you start taking advice on how to get girls you stop being you. I am probably the worst person EVER to get advice on how to get girls. The only thing I am learning is be who you are.

    Also my 'long list' of Trinity women is laughable as well does anyone actually know how many there are or do you all just assume?

    PS I think you are right, my writing is pretty weak but I am working on it. One day hopefully it will be all good :)

  15. Steps 1-3, be confident.

    Step four, don't listen to what I say but be confident.

    You're not making very much coherent sense, a writing class would probably be nice. And how can you blog about Christian stuff if you don't even know what the Bible says about homosexuality?

  16. I am talking more along the lines of trying to change who you are. When I was using a little satire. I do not want people to take my advice about changing who you are to get girls at all. Be yourself something I've always struggled with.

    I know what the Bible says about homosexuality very well. But like all things in Modern Day society there is gray areas...

    Leviticus 18:22
    "Do not practice homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman. It is a detestable sin."

    1 Corinthians 6:9
    "Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. "

    It should be night and day right? However if you follow all of these rules which one of us will get to even enter the Kingdom of God? I have friends who are homosexual and are among the greatest people I know. This opens a door to many debates because it comes down to choice or born with. If born with then they are within God's creation, if it is a choice they are still within the creation of God and should be loved. I know what the bible says, the most important thing the bible preaches is love. Loving thy neighbour regardless of anything. So that is what I try and practice is loving everyone.

  17. So do you have an open mind towards gay sex you're saying?

  18. I am saying what you do behind a close door that is consensual is up to you. Me, I am straight and saying a virgin till marriage.

  19. How do you feel about kissing?

  20. Just skimmed through your post, why does a Christian blog have a post about getting a girl?