Today I was reminded of what some people think of me and the reputation I hold with them. It was an interesting conversation, because it was between two people. One was commenting on the reputations her sister told her about me and the other girl was kind of surprised. The surprised girl asked if those comments or what people thought about it bugged me. She said if it was her she would probably go to her room and cry. I told her I have dealt with it long enough now that it does not phase me anymore, and that it never did..... This is the first time in a long time I can remember telling and absolute lie to someone. It did phase me quiet a bit to hear from someone who never even gave me a chance to have a first impression or even get to know me to think a certain way. My first encounter with her was, "Hi my name is Christian", "I know who you are" was her response. It was difficult. I do not cry myself to sleep every night but you do sure feel negative about yourself after an encounter like this one. Something I have learned this semester is the power which words have. I am in a public speaking class where we are shown how words can inspire or manipulate people and I am in a consumer behavior class where we see how words can manipulate for sales. We are all guilty and me especially is guilty of using words to bring people down, to hurt people and to be negative. I am trying to shut my mouth and speak positively because I have now seen the power of words first hand. You can shake it all off until those words get into your head and change your thoughts. Tonight reminded me why we need to shake off words because that is all they are.
Back to the main topic that was an intro story, changing a reputation. This will be a short one as this is a simple task to do:
If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of me.
Dwight L. Moody
I know the only way I will change my reputation ever is to take care of my character. This does not mean just talking about changing my character but actually following that up with actions and a change in lifestyle. Character is usually what defines our reputation. Unfortunately it is usually our character flaws that end up defining our reputation. I mentioned before that gaining a reputation can take one act and changing it could take years. This is what way to change it. It is not pretending to be something else, or acting a different way it is through taking care of your character and then the rest will follow. Actions will always speak louder then words ever can and that is what I am learning and was concreted into my head tonight. No matter what is said, or the reputations that have been built up. Taking care of my character and solid actions will speak louder. That is my encouragement for you guys. If anyone of you is worried about your reputation or anything like that let your actions speak louder then your words or anyone else's ever could.
Goodbye for now,
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